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Karen Hemmings • 26 July 2019
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How many times have you agreed or even offered to do something for others at home or work, which has left you depleted, short of time, or unable to do something you really wanted to do? Sometimes the least selfish thing is to say no.
There are many ways to say no, without upsetting someone and still leaving you in favour with the boss or work colleague and your friends happy with you. Here are a few:
I appreciate your time, but no thank you.
Thanks for thinking of me, but I have too much on at the moment.
No thanks!
I know this isn't the answer you're hoping for but I can't, sorry
Not today, thanks.
Aw, I would have loved to – but I’m afraid I can’t
Not for me, thanks.
I’m afraid I can’t.
I’m not really into X, but thanks for asking!
I’d rather not, thanks
You know I would help you if I could - but I can’t, I’m sorry
I think I’ll pass.
If you could ask someone else to do X, I would happily help you with Y.
Sometimes validation is all the other person needs. Saying something like,
‘I know that’s a bit rubbish – but I can’t, I’m sorry.’
There is no need to make elaborate excuses either, but did you also know that people are much more likely to accept the 'no' if a reason is given? So maybe try 'I'm afraid I can't because....'
If the real problem is not valuing your own time, or valuing yourself, then maybe it's your internal belief system that needs some support, to help you realise what an amazing person you are; after all people always ask those they can rely on!
If you are limiting yourself in getting what you want and what you want isn't hurting anyone, then it is probably time to change the way you think and change what you do.
NLP is a fantastic way to help you identify and overcome limiting beliefs and make positive life-changes. If you would like some support to make change, to value yourself more, feel confident saying no to things you don't want to do and yes to those you do, and if you want to take control of a positive future then please get in touch
karen@thehealingmind.co.uk or message me through Facebook@thehealingmind.co.uk
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As we approach World Mental Health Day on October 10th, it's essential to remember that caring for your mental well-being is just as important as your physical health. Mental fitness is about cultivating a healthy, balanced mindset that empowers you to handle life's challenges. This year, the 2024 World Mental Health Day theme is focusing on mental health in the workplace. With increasing demands, deadlines, and pressures in the modern work environment, it's more important than ever to take steps to protect and nurture your mental well-being at work. Whether you're experiencing stress, burnout, or difficulty balancing personal and professional life, this is a reminder that you're not alone—and it's okay to seek help. How You Can Help Yourself: 1. Set Personal Boundaries : Be aware of your own needs and know when to switch off from work and prioritise time for yourself. 2. Practice Self-Care : Regular breaks, go for a walk instead of working your breaks, mindfulness, and engaging in activities that relax you can improve mental fitness. 3. Reach Out for Support : Sometimes, overcoming workplace stress requires professional guidance. Counselling, clinical hypnotherapy, and emotional freedom therapy and other talking therapies can provide tools to manage stress, anxiety, and emotional challenges that arise in work settings. This World Mental Health Day, prioritize your mental fitness. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, this is the perfect time to take the first step towards healing, reaching out for support can transform your journey. I'm here to help you unlock your full potential and achieve lasting emotional well-being. If you would like to find out more about how therapies could help you , then you can book a free 30-minute telephone consultation at a time that suits you here, or alternatively please email karen@thehealingmind.co.uk .
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Photos by Majestic Lucaz and Caroline Veronez on Unsplash In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to feel invisible and unheard, where your presence and voice seem to fade into the background. This sense of invisibility can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, affecting your mental and emotional well-being. However, counselling offers a beacon of hope, providing a safe space where you feel seen, heard, and understood. This transformative process can profoundly impact your life, fostering recognition and understanding. Counselling creates an environment of empathy and support, where you are encouraged to express your thoughts and emotions freely. As a trained counsellor I listen attentively, validating your experiences and helping you navigate through your feelings. This validation is crucial as it acknowledges your struggles and triumphs, making you feel valued and important. The act of being heard can be incredibly therapeutic, alleviating feelings of isolation and fostering a sense of connection. One of the significant benefits of counselling is the development of self-awareness. Through guided conversations, we can explore your thoughts and emotions in a non-judgmental setting. This exploration helps you gain insights into your patterns and triggers, empowering you to make positive changes. Understanding yourself better can lead to improved self-esteem and confidence, as you recognize your strengths and work on your challenges. Additionally, counselling provides practical tools and strategies to cope with life's difficulties. Whether dealing with stress, anxiety, depression, or relationship issues, I can offer you techniques to manage these challenges effectively. Learning coping mechanisms can reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed, making it easier to navigate daily life. Counselling also promotes personal growth and development. Working towards your goals, can help you achieve a sense of accomplishment and purpose, fostering resilience and motivation, encouraging you to strive for a fulfilling and balanced life. Counselling can be a powerful tool that helps you feel seen and heard, transforming feelings of invisibility into recognition, understanding and confidence. It fosters self-awareness, provides coping strategies, and promotes personal growth, leading to a more fulfilling and connected life. If you ever feel invisible or unheard, consider reaching out to me, you can book a free 30-minute telephone consultation by clicking the button below. It could be the first step towards feeling valued and understood.