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Why Do I Need to Be in Control?

Karen Hemmings • 24 August 2021

10 signs that healthy control is turning to anxiety.

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Being a good organiser, a professional, wanting to be good at what you do, and being a manager of your own life are all great and healthy attributes. But when you start to feel anxious if things aren’t going exactly to plan and that anxiety becomes constant if you are not in control, then it may be time to reflect on the escalation and see what you can do to reduce your stress and anxiety.

Here are 10 signs that healthy control is turning to anxiety:

1. If your need for being in constant control is stopping you from enjoying life to the full.
2. If you always have to know in advance what you are doing, where, how, what you are wearing, how you will get there and can’t rest until all things are planned meticulously. 
3. If you are compelled to take control of any situation you are in.
4. If you feel anxious if your partner or friend is doing something and you can’t take over, then criticise others work or re-do their efforts your way.
5. If you feel okay as long as you are organising, but anxious doing things others have planned.
6. If you over-worry that something you have planned may not live up to expectations.
7. If you lie awake at night running plans over and over in your mind.
8. If you see yourself as a perfectionist.
9. If you need to work to your own schedule and get frustrated if others don’t want to meet your imposed expectations.
10. If the thought of letting go of control makes you feel that you may fall apart.

You may have found your need for control started due to something bad happening to you, or it could just as easily have been that you have succeeded in something by having a plan, or a format that worked, but then unconsciously you have embedded the memory and it has become an exaggerted, conditioned response for you to be more and more in control.

How Does Hypnotherapy Help Anxiety?

Hypnotherapy works by addressing the subconscious mind - the part of the mind that stores beliefs, memories, emotions, habits, values and protective reactions. Whilst in trance, strategies and healthy thought processes are introduced to help you overcome your need to be in constant control, resulting in feelings of anxiety and this helps you to get the balance back in your life.  Sessions can be recorded and listed to again, which helps embed the new positive strategies, enabling you to get on with enjoying life once again.

Hypnotherapy is a process agreed between a therapist and a client, during which you will feel safe and relaxed. It is very much like that state of relaxation before dropping off to sleep. Although it is rare that anyone would chose to open their eyes, you are always able to at any point if you would like to, because you do have personal control. I would not you to do anything unethical and you would never do anything against your personal values and beliefs.

If you would like to read clients' experiences of sessions with me, then please head over to Testimonial and Reviews page, and if you would like to find out more about how hypnotherapy can help to relieve your anxiety and live the life you would like to enjoy, then please get in touch. I offer a complimentary 30 minute telephone consultation.

The Healing Mind provides a range of Counselling and Hypnotherapy services in Gnosall, Stafford, as well as Reiki, Emotional Freedom Therapy (EFT) and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP).

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